Sharing the Mitzvah
Q: I am making a “Chanukat Habayit” dedication ceremony on the day that we move into our new home. I invited my rabbi and told him that I would be honored if he put up the mezuzah on my front door. I also mentioned that my plan was to share my joy by asking my father and each of my brothers to put up a mezuzah.
He responded that he was grateful for the honor, but that I should really place all the mezuzot myself. I was puzzled by this answer because I remembered that when the local Jewish Old Age Home was inaugurated, the rabbis present and some of the donors were honored with mezuzah placement.
When I told him how important it was for me to honor him and my family who stood by me through thick and thin, he accepted the honor and told me that I could also honor my father and even my brothers, with these conditions:
- I should place at least the first mezuzah.
- Ideally, I should appoint each one of them as my agent.
- I should inform them ahead of time, so that when I make the beracha for them they would know I meant to include them in my beracha.
Can you explain to me his concerns?
A: Firstly, Mazal Tov on the new home! It is special that you made a Chanukat Habayit at the time of the mezuzah placement. In this way you are dedicating the house to its higher purpose.
Your rabbi was referring to our Sages' instruction that “It is greater to do one’s mitzvah by himself than to appoint an agent.” The authorities write that this is applicable to mitzvot in general, and to mezuzah in particular. We find that the great Sages were careful to perform their mitzvot themselves, even when this entailed menial and arduous labor.
In contrast, the placing of mezuzot on the doors of the Jewish Old Age Home was a communal and not a personal obligation. Therefore, there was no issue in distributing the honors among the community leaders.
Even so, many authorities record that it is a common custom for individuals to forgo their rights in deference to a revered rabbi or other community leaders worthy of distinction. Your father would certainly fit into this category. Perhaps your trusted friends could be included as well, if your intention is to honor their loyalty. This is why your rabbi acceded to your desire in the end.
Your rabbi made sure to tell you to at least start off the mitzvah in order to minimally fulfill the concept of doing the mitzvah on your own. He instructed you to preferably appoint the others as your agents for the same reason. As for having them listen to your beracha, this was in order that your beracha should count for them.
- Sources: Sha’arei HaMezuzah 16:1:2-3; Agur B’ohalecha 8:17,19; Kiddushin 41a; Mishnah Berurah 250:3; Pischei Teshuvah O.C. 658:12