For the week ending 1 May 2010 / 16 Iyyar 5770
Controlling Anger
Question: How do I control my anger when I am gravely insulted publicly? What is the right thing to do?
Answer: Keep in mind what happened when King David, in flight from the rebellion of his son Avshalom, was publicly insulted by Shimmi ben Gera who cried, "Out with you, you worthless bloody man!" In response to the intention of one of his aides to slay the offender, David said, "Let him insult for it must be that G-d has certainly commanded him to curse David." (Shmuel II 16:10)
If you always keep in mind that anything which happens to you is Heavenly decreed, you will succeed in restraining your anger and leave it to Heaven to settle the account with your insulter.